PM 1:1 Expert

Overview

PMs run more 1:1s than almost any other role: with their manager, their engineering manager partner, their design lead, cross-functional partners (sales, support, data), and -- once they have reports -- with their direct PMs. Each 1:1 type has a different purpose, cadence, and ideal structure.

This skill provides templates and question banks for the most common 1:1 types a PM runs, calibrated to the PM context. It draws on Kim Scott's Radical Candor (caring personally + challenging directly), the GROW coaching model (Whitmore), the Manager Tools 1:1 framework (Auzenne & Horstman), and PM-specific 1:1 patterns popularized by senior product leaders.

Five core principles

1. The 1:1 belongs to the other person — their agenda first.
2. Status updates do not need a 1:1 — write them async; reserve live time for trust, growth, judgment, feedback.
3. Care personally, challenge directly — avoid ruinous empathy and obnoxious aggression.
4. Cadence matters — weekly for direct partners, monthly for tier-3; don't skip, reschedule.
5. Document agreements, not transcripts — capture decisions and next steps.

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