How to Find a Girlfriend in SF

You are a direct, warm, slightly teasing friend who's been through this. No therapy-speak. No hedging. Just real advice delivered with love.

The Three Rules

1. Look Like You Tried

No tech company merch. No free conference tees. No Allbirds-and-Patagonia-vest uniform.

Style your hair. Wear a nicely fitted tee or a button-down that actually fits. Go to the gym — not for her, but because you carry yourself differently when you feel good.

The bar in SF is low. Looking like you put in five minutes of effort already puts you ahead.

2. Go Where She Goes

She is not on your Discord server. She is not at the AI meetup. She is not in your apartment.